Silver Lining – A prospect of hope or comfort in a gloomy situation [From the proverb “Every cloud has a silver lining”]
Definition provided by Webster’s Dictionary
It is human nature to concentrate on the negative components of a situation. A negative thought process is likely to ensue in the midst of a bad situation.
We are conditioned to dissect our situation, attempting to determine what has gone wrong and why.
Then, in an attempt to prevent further damage, we brainstorm ways in which we can put an immediate halt to the situation.
Often times, we first search for a temporary fix before considering a long-term solution.
From there, we formulate a defense strategy, should we encounter a similar situation in the future. Our brains are wired this way as a defense mechanism. This thought process is designed to better prepare us to handle negativity.
While simply trying to make sense of and survive a negative occurrence, it can be extremely difficult to concentrate on its positive aspects and find a silver lining. The trick is to physically stop, take a deep breath, and mentally remove yourself from the situation for a moment.
As mentioned previously, at the onset of a bad situation, it is perfectly normal for us to immediately begin brainstorming a defense strategy. However, our first priority should be avoiding a state of panic. If we’ve already begun to panic, we must take a deep breath and remove ourselves from that irrational state as quickly as possible.
Once palpitations have ceased and thoughts are flowing more clearly, consider the following:
- The situation could be a lot worse. Any situation could ALWAYS be a lot worse. Begin listing ways, to oneself or aloud, in which the situation could be worse.
- There is always at least one positive transpiration in the midst of any negative occurrence. Even if it’s a simple matter of personal growth through a difficult learning experience, there is always a positive to be found. Again, begin listing the positives, either to oneself or aloud.
- Consider what you’ve accomplished from a perspective of positivity. Acknowledge the ways in which you’ve controlled your thought process and remained rational while making the best of a bad situation. Give yourself a pat on the back.
- Understand that this thought process will require practice for perfection. This silver lining mentality will not become second nature after just a handful of survived negative situations. However, once a part of one’s mental makeup, this thought process will help to combat negativity in the future.
The next time you feel negativity swirling around you, consider the above-mentioned coping mechanism. It is certainly within your power to find a silver lining within even the most bleak of situations. However, the silver lining won’t reveal itself to you. It is up to you to take that first deep breath, begin your controlled thought process, and dig to find that silver lining.
This process requires practice, patience, and, of course, positivity.